The Love Coach

You’re both in seventh heaven, an ocean of bliss, surrounded and sunk in nothing but your love for each other as you wait for wedding bells to toll with bated breath. You can’t wait to begin your new life together as husband and wife and can only foresee happiness in the future. I don’t mean to be a spoilsport and rain on your parade, but, if you’re looking at a lifetime together, it’s time to take off those blinders and look at the world and its realities without those rose-tinted glasses that you have on. Marriage is one of the biggest decisions in each of our lives, and by making a permanent commitment to your spouse, you agree to take on each other, faults and all.

But divorces are only too common in today’s scenario, simply because couples are not willing to work on their marriages. Yes, it may come as a rude shock to the romantics, but a relationship is a kind of job that you keep working at, giving it your best so that it runs smoothly like well-oiled machinery. Here are a few tips for engaged couples who’re destined to walk down the wedding road soon:

•    Marriage is all about compromise – there’s no use spending your time bickering over trivialities like how your home should be decorated or what to eat for dinner. Sometimes it’s best to take the stance “Let’s agree to disagree on this one” and settle for common tastes. When you give in to the wishes of your spouse every now and then, you’re doing it out of love so that the one you love is happy. This kind of devotion comes back multiplied many times over, and this give-and-take policy is a key stone in the foundation of a strong marriage.
•    Married couples get used to each other’s company and slowly forget the thrill and excitement of dating. Work to keep the romance alive in your marriage by getting dressed and going out once a week, like you used to do when you were seeing each other. Even when the kids arrive, hire a babysitter and keep your date with each other.
•    There are going to be issues with the in-laws, on both sides. If you don’t get along with them, be polite and keep your opinions to yourself. They are your spouse’s family after all, and insulting them or being rude to them is not going to win you any brownie points.
•    Money becomes a key issue once you get married and your finances are now pooled together. Make it a point to put aside half your income every month into a savings account that will keep for your retirement or tide you over during emergencies.
•    There will be fights, and when they happen, make sure that you make up soon enough. Think before you say anything hurtful, because your anger may dissipate, but you can never take back your words. Saying you’re sorry does not mean you are the lesser person; in fact, it means you have the bigger heart.
•    Every marriage is different, so take time to analyze yours and work on it accordingly. Remember, where there’s love, there’s always a solution to any problem! 

It’s not everyone’s cup of tea, but online dating has experienced an extraordinary growth in terms of both size and popularity in the few short years since its birth. While the safety aspects do dull the sheen on this method of meeting and getting to know prospective partners, there are various advantages that make online dating score over its traditional counterpart – like the fact that:

•    It’s cost-effective: Dating in the real world is a costly affair – right from investing in transportation costs to get to the location of your rendezvous to shelling out for drinks and a meal at a fancy restaurant, you’re spending money all night long. The virtual version does not impose such a burden on you, at least not until you like your date well enough to meet them in person. Think of all the money you’re saving.
•    You’re more in control: Unlike face to face meetings where you tend to blurt out inappropriate statements that could prove embarrassing or get you into trouble, online dating lets you take a minute or two to think out your replies and even erase what you don’t want to send before you hit the enter button, and save yourself the blushes.
•    There’re tons of possible matches: Unlike meeting random people at parties and bars and hoping they’re available or looking for someone, you know that everyone out there in the online dating world is like you, hoping to find a suitable match. And with the geographical boundaries removed, there are many more people to choose from, which increases your probability of meeting someone you like.
•    It’s easier to get over rejection: When you’ve never met someone, rejection is not that hard to handle, mostly because it happens in the privacy of your home and not in the public eye where you’re bound to get an equal amount of smirks and pity. 
•    It’s good when you’re shy in public: When you know you’re a good catch if only you’re given the chance to get through the first few meetings, online dating is your ideal option to meet other singles like you. You can break the ice from the relative anonymity of your home and once you’re comfortable with each other, move on to video chats before you actually decide to meet in person. By that time, any awkwardness that might have lingered tends to go up in smoke and you’re on your way to a lasting relationship.

Deciding what to wear on your first date is tough. Especially if your first date falls during the colder months. We’re here to help you resist the temptation to pull on some pilly, hole-y, stinky holiday sweater by showing you just how horrible you might look on your date. Read below for our list of 100 types of sweaters you should completely avoid wearing on your first date.

Top 10 Deal Breakers

If your sweater meets any of the following qualifications, it’s the wrong choice.

1. Anything that sheds: If you’re leaving behind bits of pistachio-colored wool or mohair behind you, no one’s going to want to risk kissing or even hugging you goodnight.
2. A stinky sweater: Sometimes we wear our sweaters more than once without washing or dry cleaning them, but if it’s a first date, always wear a clean–or at least Febreze’d–sweater.
3. Anything the moths have gotten to: If you find a hole under your armpit, don’t think that no one will notice. They will.
4. Anything that smells like mothballs: Keep your sweaters in airtight containers during the summer months. Mothballs will make your first date gag.
5. "Vintage": Vintage sweaters are cool but not for first dates. Especially if your idea of vintage is a triple hand-me-down from your great grandpa who loved to sleep in his sweater.
6. Stained sweaters: Wearing a stained sweater to your first date–no matter what kind of stain it is–makes you look disgusting and lazy.
7. Cashmere: Cashmere is soft and snuggly, but it’s also really hot and will probably make you sweat if you’re even the teensiest bit nervous.
8. Horizontal stripes: Girls who wear sweaters with horizontal stripes will just look chunky, so wear something more flattering.
9. Itchy sweaters: If you’re going to be itching and scratching and turning red during dinner, wear something underneath or pick a different sweater.
10. Incredibly expensive sweaters: You’ll be so nervous that you’ll end up spilling something on it, but you can’t make a big fuss because you won’t want to seem materialistic or rigid. Leave it at home.

Characters and Cartoons

Wearing a sweater that has a picture of a character or cartoon character on it will make you look silly, immature and dorky. Move on.

11. Harry Potter: Dressing like Harry Potter on your first date translates into one thing: you have no life.
12. Disney Princesses: Most everyone over the age of six thinks that the whole Disney Princesses thing is lame, so give this one to your niece.
13. Mickey Mouse: Just because a handsome model from Saks is wearing it, doesn’t mean it looks good.
14. The Smurfs: The Smurfs didn’t even wear sweaters, so wearing a sweater with a picture of a Smurf is just illogical.
15. Velma: Velma was the brainiac from Scooby Doo, and no one wants a first date with a brainiac.
16. Charlie Brown: Charlie Brown stands for inferiority and social inadequacy. Is that what you want to communicate to your date?
17. Spongebob: We could have showed you a Spongebob sweater on a human, but then you might not have gotten the true horror of its potential. Don’t wear this.
18. Curious George: A picture of a naked monkey won’t get you very far in the goodnight-kiss department.
19. Superhero sweaters: Superheros don’t wear sweaters, and neither should you on your first date.
20. Woodstock: Wearing a sweater with pictures of Woodstock on it will make you look flighty, clueless and a little deranged..

Christmas Sweaters

Christmas sweaters are the ultimate in bad sweaters, and while most people know this, sweater lovers continue to wear them unphased. If you wear one on a date, you’ll be the laughingstock of the entire restaurant.

21. 3D Snowman: Christmas sweaters are known for being 3D, and this snowman is just too much.
22. Sophisticated reindeer: Sometimes designers try to turn Christmas sweaters into sophisticated styles, but it’s still all wrong.
23. Christmas sweater vest: As if it couldn’t get any worse!
24. Nontraditionally colored sweater: Just because it’s not red and green doesn’t mean it’s okay. It’s still an ugly 3D Christmas sweater.
25. Garish Nutcracker sweater: This garish sweater is the color of Pepto Bismol and has sparkles and designs on the sleeves, collar and and everywhere else.
26. Santa Claus: Santa would freak if he saw you wearing this sweater.
27. The Bridget Jones Christmas sweaters: Even top barrister Mark looks doofy in this reindeer design.
28. Manger scene: Wear this on a first date and just see what happens.
29. Doggie Christmas sweater: Covered in dogs, paw prints and doggie bones, this sweater is just awful.
30. Gingerbread man: Gingerbread men are for eating, not wearing on a sweater.
31. Teddy bear Christmas: Teddy bears are a dowdy Christmas favorite, but don’t you succumb to the terrible trend.
32. Crafty sweaters: Sweaters that look like they were bought at a country Christmas festival should be off limits.
33. Snowflake sweater: Even a simple design in neutral colors like gray and navy won’t cut it.
34. Christmas tree: It’s a classic Christmas symbol, but it’s not date-worthy.
35. The Christmas dinosaur: This odd design will prompt too many questions.
36. A sweater that has pictures of other sweaters on it: This is the quintessential bad Christmas sweater.

Glitter and Sparkly Sweaters

Every sweater needs a little bling, right? Wrong. Avoid these at all costs.

37. J.Crew glitter sweater: When did J.Crew think it was okay to make something for the roller rink?
38. Homemade sparkly vest: Special glitter thread does not add edge or "that special something" to a sweater vest.
39. Cascading sparkles: This Santa beard is a good example of how the designs on your sweater should not be made out of sparkles.
40. Sequin sweater: Would you go on a date with this guy? Then don’t expect anyone to want to see it on you, either.
41. Pink showgirl sweater: This sweater was made for Lady Luck and no one else.

Slutty Sweaters

Yes, even sweaters can be slutty and inappropriate. If you disagree, then check out these awful selections.

42. Netted cowl neck sweater: Don’t let the cowl neck part fool you. Only a tramp would wear this thing.
43. Cropped crochet vest: It’s weird that a crochet design can look slutty and cheap, but this sweater does the trick.
44. See-through sweater: If your sweater is too thin, put a t-shirt or cami on underneath.
45. Crop top: Never wear a sweater like this without a longer top underneath.
46. Too tight: Too-tight sweaters are not only inappropriate, they also look dorky.

Holiday Sweaters

Holiday sweaters don’t just have Christmas designs. From Halloween to Easter, check out this list of major don’ts.

47. Horn of Plenty: The Horn of Plenty should be reserved for elementary school arts and crafts and the Thanksgiving table, not your date-night sweater.
48. Hanukah Sweater: Covered in gold Stars of David and a menorah, this holiday sweater is a bad idea for date night.
49. Winter scene sweater: When a scene covers every bit of the sweater, you know it’s got to go.
50. Easter scene: 3D chicks and Easter eggs are inconvenient, let alone tacky.
51. Patchwork Halloween sweater: Bats, a skeleton and a black cat? Anyone who loves Halloween that much should stay home.
52. Valentine’s Day: If you’re already expecting your date to be with you on Valentine’s Day, he’ll be freaked out by your intensity.
53. The flag sweater: The flag sweater is a staple for the 4th of July and Memorial Day, but wearing it on a date makes you look lazy.
54. Thanksgiving turkey: A puffy turkey and puffed out pumpkins will not impress your date.
55. Kiss Me I’m Irish: If you find this design on a sweater, save it for St. Patrick’s Day only. Wearing it on a date will make you look crude and tacky.
56. Halloween fringe: Who’s going to take you seriously in this?

Teacher Sweaters

Teachers get a bad rap for their sweater choices, but that’s not your fault. Resist the temptation to take style choices from your third grade social studies teacher and wear something a little sexier.

57. Drapey boring sweater: It’s navy, has a few 3D designs and is much too long.
58. Roosters: This oversized rooster sweater is a total miss.
59. Happy Hearts sweater: Just the thing a kindergarten teacher would wear, not you.
60. The apple sweater: How stereotypical is this? You shouldn’t wear it on the first day of school, let alone your first date.
61. School symbols cardigan: Do you want "school symbol appliques and…sparkling rhinestone accents" hanging off your body when you lean in for a kiss?
62. Dogs cardigan: Great for the teacher who loves dogs, this sweater will send your date running.
63. Cat sweater: Teacher sweaters and cat sweaters are annoying and a little creepy.
64. Sweater vest: Nothing says stuffy professor like this look.
65. Book stack mock-neck sweater: We’re not sure what’s worse: the book stack design or the fact that this is a mock-neck sweater.
66. 123, ABC: Your date probably already knows his ABCs, so spare him the lecture.

Grandma and Grandpa Sweaters

Sometimes dressing retro is cute, but there’s a right and a wrong way to do it. Avoid these old-fashioned and conservative designs.

67. The capelet: What’s a crocheted capelet? This. And it’s unacceptable date wear.
68. Grandpa or Grandma’s old college sweater: Especially if it was from an Ivy League, this choice will make you look like a pretentious bore.
69. Victorian puffed sleeved sweater: This chunky, bow-tied mess is not sexy at all.
70. Grandma hug sweater: Actually, this cardigan could be worn by either grandparent, a clear indication that it’s not right for your date.
71. Sailor sweater: People who wear sailor sweaters on dates probably have nothing better to talk about than topsiders and sails.

Too-Conservative Sweaters

No one wants to look like a prude on their first date. Avoid these too-conservative sweaters.

72. 1950s sequin sweater: This is a pretty design, actually, but it’ll make you look too innocent for a first date.
73. Sunday School teacher sweater: Do you want to date any of these people?
74. Convent sweater: Does it look like a nun would wear it over her habit? Toss it.
75. Rose-colored beaded sweater: The color combination, beaded design and overall fit are just too conservative.
76. Argyle: Argyle is okay for work and school, but not for a first date.

Handmade Sweaters

A handmade bracelet or necklace is okay on a first date, but never a handmade sweater.

77. Crochet wrap sweater: Even the tailored design can’t trick us: this thing is crochet and not date-worthy.
78. Hand-knit fringe: This sweater was actually made in Ecuador, which is nice, but it’s still too crafty for a date.
79. The unfinished mess: If it looks like garbage, don’t bother finishing it.
80. The sweater you bought at a fair: Cute in the ramshackle tent, not on you.
81. Tie-dye sweater dress: Don’t get any ideas to DIY your sweater dress into a tie-dye nightmare.

Avant Guard Sweaters

Even truly daring and artistic creations won’t work on your first date. View these examples to find out why.

82. Drapey, deconstructed sweaters: This style will make you look messy and artsy fartsy, but not in a good way.
83. 1980s abstract sweater: This sweater says that you love color and aren’t afraid to show it.

Colors to Avoid

From pea to leopard to rainbow, these colors do not work on sweaters.

84. Pea and pistachio: If it reminds you of vomit, it’s probably not a good choice
85. Bright orange: A bright orange sweater on your first date? See Velma from Scooby Doo, above.
86. Multi-colored or rainbow: A sweater with crazy patterns and lots of different colors will be too distracting for a first date.
87. Leopard print: This is sometimes considered a glamorous print, but it looks horrid on a wool sweater. Especially for a first date.
88. Mud: If you wear brown, make sure it’s a rich color that enhances your complexion.
89. Anything faded: If your sweater has been through the laundry too many times, opt for something brighter and newer.

More Bad Choices

Our final list includes even more bad sweater choices, including the hoodie, sleeveless sweaters and Mr. Rogers sweaters.

90. Anything that was made for a dog: The dog even looks miserable, and you will too.
91. S&M sweaters: Not only will you not be able to eat or shake hands, you’ll probably scare off your date in seconds.
92. The hoodie: If you still need an explanation, then you are probably wearing a hoodie right now.
93. Sleeveless sweaters: You can show your creative styling by layering under this sweater, but it’s still a bad choice that would only pass on toddlers.
94. The 80s sweater: If you wear this, your date will think you’re from a small town in Eastern Europe..
95. The sweater you wore for picture day in sixth grade: Bad choice all around.
96. Military sweater: This is kind of an intense choice for a first date.
97. Suburbanite: This sweater’s been named "Suburbanite," and we don’t think that’s a good sign.
98. Hate messages: Any sweaters that proclaim hateful, racist or sexist messages are a definite don’t.
99. The Mr. Rogers sweater: For old people in their chairs.
100. Team sweater or jersey: This fashion choice suggests you’d rather be at home watching the game than putting any effort at all into looking nice for your date.

If you’ve finally decided to come out to your friends and family, it can be a potentially nerve-racking and possibly awkward situation for all involved. Luckily, there are thousands of others who’ve gone through the experience before you who have some helpful relationship advice and pointers on making it a happy and liberating experience. Here are 100+ resources we’ve put together to help you get the guidance you need to come out and start living life openly.

Helpful Articles

Get guides to coming out and learn what to expect from friends and family in these articles.

1. Tips for Coming Out to Your Kids: If you’re an adult who has children and is finally ready to come out as a gay or lesbian, then check out this guide from COLAGE. It can give you the strength and understanding you need to come out to your family.
2. Coming Out Tips for Queer Teens: The Heath Resource Center at Our Bodies Ourselves provides this article that can help give you some guidance in coming out to those around you.
3. 24 Coming Out Tips: This humorous and helpful article can be a fun and informative way to learn the dos and don’ts of coming out.
4. Tips for Coming Out on National Coming Out Day: Celebrate this annual holiday by coming out with some help from the tips in this article.
5. Coming Out: Step-By-Step: Learn the steps you’ll need to go through to come out to friends and family by taking a look at this article from About.com.
6. Advice on Coming Out to Your Parents: Telling your parents can be one of the hardest steps in coming out so read this article by a woman who just did it herself and can offer some insight.
7. How Do I Say This? Coming Out: This video from MTV provides some simple advice on coming out to your parents.
8. Coming Out to Parents, Relatives and Straight Friends: This article from GayCity USA gives some helpful pointers on things you’ll need to consider before coming out.
9. Coming Out and Staying Out: Gay and bisexual men can use this guide to ease their transition to being openly gay.
10. How to Come Out at Work: Coming out to your coworkers can be a tricky matter, so get some help from this TimesOnline article on how to manage the situation.
11. How to Come Out as a Gay or Lesbian Teen: Being a teenager can be hard enough without adding the question of your sexuality into the mix. This eHow guide can give you some tips on making it a little easier.
12. Choosing the Right Time to Come Out of the Closet: Read this story of a young woman who struggled with the right time for her to admit to friends and family that she was a lesbian.
13. A Beginners Guide to Coming Out: Learn the basics of coming out from this helpful guide.
14. TomCrew’s Guide to Coming Out: This site can give you some advice from someone else who’s gone through the same process.
15. What Does Being Gay Mean?: Get some assistance in coming to terms with your sexuality from this article from HealthyPlace.com.

Websites

Check out these websites for loads of resources to help you come out and find your place in the gay community.

16. PlanetOut: This site pulls together news on the gay community from sites all over the Web. You can find many useful and informative resources here.
17. Empty Closets: Check out these resources for coming out and enjoy their chatroom and forums as a safe place to ask your questions and get answers.
18. About.com: Coming Out: Here you’ll find loads of articles that can help educate you on the coming out process.
19. Gay Student Center: College students who are openly gay or who are thinking about coming out can find resources and support on this site.
20. All Things Gay and Lesbian: Here you’ll find a wide range of resources from lists of celebrities that are openly gay to tips on coming out.
21. LGBT Seniors: Older people looking to come out or find others in their age range to talk with can employ the resources from this site.
22. The Gay Youth Corner: Young people with questions about their sexuality can find answers and support on this stie as well as chat and participate in forums.
23. Family Acceptance: If your family is having trouble coming to terms with your sexuality, direct them towards this site which helps even religious parents understand and learn to support their gay children.
24. GLBT National Help Center: Check out this site for free email or telephone counseling and information on where you can find local support and resources.
25. The Closet Light: Read an inspirational poem and get motivation to come out on this site.
26. I Thought I Knew You: This site can be a valuable resource for your friends who may not know how to react to your news.
27. Coming Out 101: Join this site to get help whether you’ve just come out or are thinking about doing it soon.

Organizations

These organizations are dedicated to helping GLBT people from all over the world when coming out, finding employment and much more.

28. Human Rights Campaign: On this organization’s site, you’ll find a host of resources including coming out guides, opportunities to read the stories of others who have come out and a FAQ section.
29. OutProud: Check out this site to read the stories of those who’ve come out, find articles and find support in your community.
30. OutFront: This Minnesota based organization can provide help and assistance to those within the state to make coming out an easier experience.
31. PFLAG: Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays can be a great resource to direct your friends and family to to help them understand and come to terms with you coming out to them.
32. GLAAD: The Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation can be a great place to look for resources to help you fight against defamation and prejudice because of your sexual orientation.
33. Safe Schools Coalition: This organization is dedicated to helping ensure GLBT children and educators have a safe and secure school environment. On the site, you’ll find helpful information about coming out that can make it easier to explain your decision to others.
34. Out for Equity: Check out this site for coming out resources and information on making educational environments safe for everyone.
35. The Coming Out Project: While based in Forth Worth, Texas, this organization can still provide some inspiring stories and resources to those looking to come out.
36. Gay Teens Resources: Find loads of help and assistance in coming out and living as a gay teen around the world.
37. GLSEN: The Gay and Lesbian Straight Education Network can help provide resources to aid your friends and family in understanding and accepting you.
38. National Gay and Lesbian Task Force: This organization, founded in 1973, fights for equality for the GLBT community. You can also use the site as a place to find information on a number of issues that may become increasingly important to you after you come out.
39. Contact Crisis Line: If you’re feeling depressed or upset about your decision to come out, don’t go through it alone. Give this crisis line a call for a friendly ear to listen.
40. The Triangle Foundation: This Michigan-based group works to fight for equality and acceptance of gays and can provide you and your family with some helpful reading material.
41. Gay? Fine By Me: Encourage your friends to join this organization. They’ll learn how to support you as you come out and get the word out about more acceptable attitudes towards homosexuality.

Blogs

Share in the experiences of others who’ve come out in these informative and sometimes humorous blogs.

42. Debriefing the Boys: New England student Matt has just come out and his blog follows him as he discovers what it means to be gay.
43. My Journey Out: Follow this middle aged man as he finally comes out and chronicles the experience in his blog.
44. Coming Out 101 Blog: This helpful website also contains a blog which posts humorous entries on living life as a gay or lesbian individual.
45. Happily Hers: Check out this blog created by a same sex couple who just got married and have written about the process, and it’s adjustments on their blog.
46. Coming Out Strong: Here you can find helpful posts that can assist you in finding the strength to come out.
47. Closer to Fine: The author of this blog didn’t come out until her 40s. You’ll find quotes, personal insights and more.
48. Relentless Egomania: This blog contains a wide variety of posts but you’ll find commentary on gay relationships and issues with coming out as well.
49. My Gay Life: This blog focuses on one man’s process of coming out.
50. Queersighted: This blog is full of news and views about the gay and lesbian community.
51. LGBT Book Blog: Find some suggestions on reading and viewing materials that can help you come out and adjust to life in the gay community on this blog.
52. Coming Out from Behind the Badge: Law enforcement officers can face some unique challenges when coming out. Read about them here and a variety of other issues.
53. Opening the Door:Follow this blogger as he takes steps to becoming openly gay.
54. Emerging Butterfly: This blogger went from a heterosexual marriage to being a secure, independent lesbian mother. You can read about her story here.
55. Jamie Baillie’s Coming Out Page: Check this blog for updates from a newly openly gay man.

Books

Make a few additions to your bookshelf so you’ll be prepared for every eventuality when you come out.

56. Living In Sin?: This book, written by a Bishop John Selby Spong, explains why he thinks the church has the wrong attitude about gays. It can be a valuable read for those struggling to integrate their faith and sexuality.
57. My Child Is Gay: Parents share their stories of their reactions to their children coming out in this powerful book. Give it a read before coming out to your own parents.
58. Coming Out to Parents: A Two-Way Survival Guide for Lesbians and Gay Men and Their Parents: Both you and your parents can benefit from this book, which acts a guide for those looking to come out.
59. Free Your Mind: The Book for Gay, Lesbian, and Bisexual Youth and Their Allies: Young GLBT individuals should give this book a read for help and information on coming out, living as a openly gay person, and helping family and friends to adjust.
60. Outing Yourself: How to Come Out as Lesbian or Gay to Your Family, Friends, and Coworkers: Coming out is never easy, but this primer can give you the guidance you need to get through it.
61. Boys Like Us: This book focuses on sharing some heartbreaking and happy stories about young men who have come out.
62. Now That I’m Out What Do I Do?: Once you have come out to your friends and family what happens next? This book can help you get started living your life as an openly gay individual.
63. Becoming Visible: A Reader in Gay and Lesbian History for High School and College Students: Learn about gays and lesbians throughout history in this informative book.
64. My Child Is Gay: How Parents React When They Hear the News: Take a look at this book to learn the variety of ways parents can react when they find out their son or daughter is gay, so you won’t be totally surprised at your own parents’ reactions.
65. Coming Out of Shame : Transforming Gay and Lesbian Lives: The authors of this book are life partners who do their best to explain how gays can escape the shame they often feel at being who they truly are.
66. Lesbian Epiphanies: Women Coming Out in Later Life: If you’ve finally realized that you are a lesbian in your later years give this book a read for some helpful guidance.
67. Coming Out Within: Stages of Spiritual Awakening for Lesbians and Gay Men: Learn to embrace the spiritual elements of coming out with some help from this book.
68. Figuring It Out: This book follows the life of one real-life lesbian as she struggles to come to terms with her sexuality and come out over the course of 9 years.

Coming Out Stories and Advice

On these sites you can get inspiration and advice from the thousands of others who’ve come out to friends, family and coworkers.

69. London-Boy’s Diary: This online diary chronicles the story of a young man in London as he comes out to his friends and family.
70. In Memory of Bill Clayton: Read this mother’s touching story about her son, Bill, who came out and was the victim of a hate crime in his home town and eventually committed suicide. The story is part of a youth organization dedicated to protecting and supporting other young men and women who want to come out.
71. Coming Out: My Story: This Australian man tells his story of a life spent questioning his sexuality and his eventual coming out.
72. The Deaf Queer Resource Center: Our Stories: Here you can read and watch the stories of dozens of deaf individuals who have come out. Some of them are in sign language and others are written in English.
73. How Do I Say This?: Post your problems and concerns with coming out on this site and get helpful answers and responses from others.
74. Lesbian Herstory Archives: At this organization you can read the stories of the lives of hundreds of lesbians, from coming out, to raising a family.
75. Where Girls Kiss Girls: Coming Out Stories: Here you can read the stories of dozens of lesbians and get hope and guidance for when you come out to your family and friends.
76. Spinner Coming Out Stories: Get the background on how numerous rock and rollers have chosen to come out in this blog series.
77. Gay Stories: Coming Out: Give this site a read for stories of individuals who came out to supportive friends and others that didn’t go quite as planned.
78. Logo Coming Out Stories: Watch videos that tell the stories of numerous others who’ve taken the plunge and come out.
79. Lesbians Coming Out Stories: Ladies looking for a little inspiration to come out can find it in these stories on About.com.
80. OutZoneTV Coming Out Stories: Check out this site to watch videos from some familiar faces on how they told friends and family they were gay.
81. GayBombay Coming Out Stories: Here you’ll get to hear about the experiences of numerous people as they came out.

Forums and Support Groups

Get support, ask questions and chat with others on these great sites.

82. ConverseBoards: Gay Lesbian and Bisexual Forum: Share tips and experiences coming out on this board as well as finding support and advice from others in the community.
83. Qnet Discussion Board: Qnet is an online community for gay, lesbian, bi, transgendered and intersex people under the age of 25 and you’ll be able to talk with others within the GLBT community on this site.
84. Coming Out Yahoo! Group: On this site you’ll be able to enjoy support in chat rooms, forums and more.
85. Out Everywhere: Chat with others in the GLBT community on this site which also provides a social networking forum and listings of various events around the world.
86. Healthy Place Coming Out Forum: There are loads of posts here for you to read and if you join you can post threads of your own.
87. CampusBlues I’m Coming Out: Meet with others who are contemplating coming out on this college age forum.
88. Daily Strength Coming Out Support Group: You’ll get support and guidance from others in your same situation on this helpful site.
89. The Gay Dads Group: If you’re a father who has come out or is questioning your sexuality join this group to get the support and understanding you need.
90. Straight Spouse Network: Those who are married and must break the news of their homosexuality to their spouse can direct them to this site which can provide the support and resources they’ll need to come to terms with things.
91. OutMinds: This site can be a great way to network with others in the GLBT community and talk in an easy-to-use social network format.
92. All Experts: Post your questions about coming out and being gay on this site and get advice from experts.
93. ChadzBoys: Here, gay men can ask their questions, get support and browse the other features of this site.
94. QueerID Forums: Check out these forums to chat with others about GLBT issues and get advice on coming out.

Miscellaneous

Check out these sites for a variety of issues related to coming out and dating.

95. Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual TV Characters: Check out some of these TV shows and characters for inspiration and insight to coming out and living as a gay man or woman.
96. National Coming Out Day: This October 11th holiday helps raise awareness about gay and lesbian issues.
97. Out of the Closet TV: Go here to watch videos on a range of gay and lesbian topics.
98. A Letter to Louise: Those struggling to reconcile their sexuality with a Christian upbringing and teachings in the bible will appreciate reading this letter written by Pastor Bruce Lowe to one of his parishioners.
99. The Rainbow Therapist: If you’re having issues coming to terms with coming out or being homosexual, consider some therapy. This therapist specializes in GBLT support and can direct you towards help and support groups.
100. American Psychiatric Association: Back in the less enlightened days, being gay used to be considered a mental illness. Read this article from the APA to reassure yourself that there’s nothing wrong with the way you feel.
101. The Trevor Project: If you are in any way feeling suicidal about issues due to your sexuality, please read this page and get in contact with this organization before you do anything drastic.

Sometimes hidden behind the walls of a home and sometimes witnessed by many, domestic abuse occurs every day and to too many people. While most victims of abuse are women, men can fall prey to abuse as well, and people of both sexes often feel too dependent or afraid to leave their abusers. If you are in a situation that you know or feel may be abusive, this list of resources and information will help guide you as you make important decisions about your life. Most importantly, if you ever feel you are in immediate danger, please call 911.

Basics of Abuse

The following resources provide definitions, overviews, and more about the basics of domestic violence and abuse.

1. Domestic Violence and Abuse. Offering a clear and easy to understand look at domestic violence, this article explains how and why it happens and provides signs as to whether or not you should be concerned about your relationship.
2. Domestic violence toward women: Recognize the patterns and seek help. An excellent resource for learning about the cycle of abuse, how abuse affects families, and how to break the cycle, this article gives lots of important information on the subject.
3. Domestic Violence. From eMedicine, this article provides definitions, signs, statistics, and more and offers a good analytical overview of domestic violence.
4. Abusive Relationship Tips. This article gives signs to look for in a partner to indicate he has an abusive personality, signs of an abusive relationship, tips for leaving, and more.
5. Domestic Violence Information. Browse through these categories to learn about domestic violence, signs, effects, and more.
6. Leaving Abuse. This website was set up by a woman who left an abusive relationship and survived. There is lots of information for all aspects of the leaving process.
7. Family Violence Prevention Fund. Find articles on how to protect yourself at work, ways to make sure you stay safe when a situation escalates, fact sheets on various domestic violence situations, and much more at this site.
8. MINICAVA Electronic Clearinghouse. This site offers articles on a wide variety of topics pertaining to violence and abuse ranging from domestic violence to youth violence to child trafficking.
9. Domestic Violence: An Overview. Find out what is and is not considered domestic violence, then follow the links to find more information on specifics.
10. Domestic Violence Awareness Handbook. This guide provides information and articles to help you learn the basics.
11. Cycle Theory of Abuse. This graphic clearly describes the cycle of abuse.
12. Physical and/or Sexual Abuse. Another simple graphic with lots of information, this wheel describes what physical and sexual abuse may look like.

Safety Issues

From technology to stalking, these resources provide suggestions to help keep you safe.

13. Technology Safety. Find ways to protect yourself when it comes to computer, email, social networks, and more.
14. Stalkinghelp.org. This site offers the basics about stalking, suggests resources and security measures, and offers links to helping organizations all around the world.
15. StalkingVictimsSanctuary. If you are being stalked or fear you may be after leaving, this site is an excellent resource.
16. Domestic Violence Safety Tips for You and Your Family. This article offers lists on ways to keep you and your family safe in a variety of settings from home to work.

Plan to Leave

Leaving an abusive relationship can be difficult. Use these tips and resources to plan ahead for as safe a departure as possible.

17. Keep it secret. Don’t show any signs of leaving or drop any hints as this can alert the abuser. Frequently, abusers will do anything in their power to stop their partner from going and the situation can rapidly turn dangerous or a new "honeymoon" phase may convince you to stay.
18. Personalized Safety Plan. Write a personal safety plan and a workplace safety plan to be ready for whatever may occur.
19. Prioritize. List your priorities of what you want to take with you. The checkbook and your children’s birth certificates are probably more important than your favorite coffee mug or easier to take than your grandmother’s cedar chest.
20. Evidence of abuse. If you have any court documents, police reports, photographs, or any other evidence of the abuse that has occurred, plan to take that with you. It may be very important in the time after you leave.
21. Finances. Create a secret stash of money that you can use to make the break and get started on your own.
22. Bank account. Before you leave, open a bank account in your own name. Use a different bank than you and your partner currently use. If necessary, make sure there are branches all over the country in case you have to go farther away than you anticipate.
23. New place. If possible, find a new place to live before you leave. Make all necessary deposits or set a date with family if that is where you are going.
24. Safety Planning for Victims of Domestic Abuse. Use these tips for creating a safe way out of your situation.
25. dvSurvivalKit. This site offers great tip sheets on all aspects of planning and safely breaking away from an abusive relationship.

Leaving

When the actual time comes to leave, follow these suggestions for a smooth transition.

26. When to leave. Plan to leave as soon as the abuser has left the house for the day. Choose a day in the middle of the week when you know he will be gone.
27. Be ready to pack. Don’t get boxes or start gathering things together before you are actually moving. As soon as you put your plan in place, start packing up the basic necessities and very important objects, then get out.
28. Have friends waiting. Let a few trustworthy friends in on your plan and have them ready to help you on your leaving day with packing, watching the children, or any other tasks you may need help completing.
29. Leaving an abusive relationship. This article gives a good basic rundown of all the steps to consider when making a plan to leave.
30. Barriers to Leaving an Abusive Relationship. Find out why some women don’t leave an abusive relationship with this article.
31. International Directory of Domestic Violence Agencies. Click on this world map to find a plethora of agencies that offer help in any particular geographic area with getting out of an abusive situation.

In Case of Emergency

Even with the best of planning, sometimes emergency situations arise that force you to leave sooner than anticipated. Take these suggestions to ensure you can get out safely.

32. Know the number for a local women’s shelter. Women’s shelters are equipped to take you and your children in quickly and privately. This is an important resource for any woman in an abusive relationship.
33. Have some clothes packed. Have a few day’s worth of clothes and basic necessities packed in case an argument escalates and you have to get away quickly. Make sure you have anything like prescription medications ready to go also.
34. Set aside important documents. Gather all your documents such as car titles, birth certificates, bank account numbers, and passports in one place. Keep them readily accessible in case you have to leave sooner than expected.
35. Have a place to go. Arrange for a safe place to go if you need to leave in a hurry. A good friend or family member’s house is not the best place to go as your abuser will likely go there first to look for you.
36. Plan for pets. Many emergency shelters do not allow pets, so if you have to leave in a hurry and you refuse to leave your pets behind, make sure you have a back-up plan for where they can go such as a kennel or a friend’s house.
37. Prepare to be gone long term. Even though you may not feel you are ready for the final break, if you have to leave in an emergency, it may be quite a while before you can safely return–or even a permanent move.

Legal Issues

From child custody to divorce to orders of protections, find out what your legal rights are and how to enforce them.

38. Violence Against Women Online Resources. Find documents about advocacy, child custody and protection, and criminal justice response at this site.
39. WomensLaw.org. Learn about the laws, find out how to stay safe, and prepare for court, find local legal programs and help, and more on this site designed specifically to help women who have been exposed to domestic or sexual violence.
40. ABA Lawyer Referral Directory. Click on your state to find lawyer referral programs.
41. Legal Services Corporation. If you don’t have enough money to hire a lawyer and you are in need of protection, this organization may be able to help you.
42. Addressing the Effects of Domestic Violence on Children. Find out the basics of how abuse in families affects children and the laws concerning violence, custody, visitation, and welfare of children.
43. Divorce Source: Domestic Violence FAQs. Get legal answers from lawyers on some of the basic questions women have about domestic violence.
44. Firearms and Domestic Violence. Learn about the laws as they pertain to firearms and specific aspects of domestic violence.
45. FindLaw Domestic Violence. This legal website offers forms, articles, and statutes that may be of help for you.
46. Dating/Domestic Violence: Your Legal Rights & Remedies. Learn the basics about your rights and what you can do legally to protect yourself.
47. Restraining order. You may want to consider filing for a restraining order in a legal attempt to keep your abuser away from you.
48. Divorce. If you determine that divorce is a necessary part of your situation, then find help from a lawyer with experience helping survivors of domestic abuse.
49. Domestic Violence and Child Custody. This handbook offers a complete look at the legal aspects of child custody when domestic violence takes place.
50. Starting Over: Legal Name Change. Find out what you need to do to legally change your name if you need to remain hidden from your abuser.

Children and Youth

Children in homes affected by domestic violence are also victims–whether they are physically involved or not. Learn about the relationship of children and domestic violence. You will also find resources for teens who experience domestic violence at home or in their own relationships.

51. Effects of Domestic Violence on Children and Adolescents: An Overview. Learn the basics of how violence in the home affects children and teens with this article.
52. The Facts on Children and Domestic Violence. This basic fact sheet offers statistics and information on children and violence in the home.
53. Parental Abduction and Domestic Violence. Get the facts on parental abduction in this article.
54. Child Protection in Families Experiencing Domestic Violence. This in-depth article offers a complete look at the effects of domestic violence on children.
55. National Child Traumatic Stress Network. This organization provides resources for children and their families who have undergone trauma of any kind.
56. Domestic Violence: Protecting Yourself and Your Children. Learn the basics about protecting your family. Check out the link "Guns & Your Family."
57. When Children Witness Domestic Violence: Expert Opinion. This legal opinion about the effects of abuse on children and whether they should remain in custody with the non-offending parent offers information and facts about a difficult situation.
58. Domestic Violence Youth Safety Plan. Any teen who either experiences domestic violence at their home or with a date should have this safety plan.
59. Break the Cycle. This organization is teaching youth how to break the cycle of abuse through their own relationships through education and advocacy.
60. When Love Hurts. Aimed at youth, yet helpful for anyone in a potentially abusive situation, this site offers articles, quizzes, and more to help you decide if your situation needs help and how to find that help.
61. Youth Rights in Domestic Violence: Basic Legal Information Concerning Texas Minors. While this handbook, which covers information not easily found elsewhere, is specifically for teens in Texas, the legal issues can be used as a basis for the rights of other teens as well.

Staying Away and Starting Over

While getting out of the relationship is a huge and sometimes dangerous step, it is by no means the end of the process. Learn how to stay away and start over in a healthier and safer life with these resources.

62. Life After Abuse. Read this article for encouragement and tips on how to help with healing and moving on.
63. Support groups. Find support groups to help you process what you have been through and also as support as you make your new life.
64. Be prepared for promises. It is very likely that your abuser will seem suddenly very remorseful and full of promises to change. His intentions may well be good, but chances of a change overnight are not likely.
65. Facing the Challenge After Leaving an Abusive Relationship. This article provides insight to what you may be feeling after leaving and how to combat some of those negative feelings.
66. Sanctuary for the Abused. This blog offers articles, links, and resources to help survivors of abuse stay strong and healthy.
67. Don’t jump into another relationship. Take some time to recover from the devastating effects of the relationship you are ending before moving on to another person. If you haven’t had time to process the experience and get some help, chances are very good you will end up in another abusive relationship.
68. Cosmetic and Reconstructive Support. This program offers cosmetic and reconstructive procedures to people who cannot afford to make the corrections needed as a result of domestic violence.
69. National Center for Victims of Crime. Find legal resources, help with stalking, and help for victims of abuse all on this site.
70. Gift From Within. This site helps those with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder find support, heal, and learn to get on with their lives.
71. VictimPower.org. Using secure technology, victims and witnesses to violent crimes can use this site to file crime reports and receive responses with anonymity.

Hotlines

From immediate help to sexual assault to suicide prevention, these hotlines all offer emergency care and resources.

72. 911. The first place you can call in event of an emergency is 911. If you or your children are in danger, do not hesitate to call.
73. National Domestic Violence Hotline. If you are being abused, call this toll-free number. 1-800-799-7233 or TTY 1-800-787-3224.
74. National Sexual Assault Hotline. Get help, information, and more with this organization. Call toll free at 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)
75. National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline. Visit this website or call this number if you are a teen in an abusive relationship. 1-866-331-9747 or TTY 1-866-331-8453.
76. ChildHelp. The ChildHelp National Abuse Hotline is available to report any child abuse you witness. 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453).
77. Stop It Now!. If you suspect or know that your child was sexually abused, call this number for help. 1-888-PREVENT (1-888-773-8368).
78. National Center for Missing and Exploited Children. If your partner takes your children, turn to this organization for help. 1-800-843-5678 or TTY 1-800-826-7653.
79. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. If you are considering suicide, please call this number immediately. 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or TTY 1-800-799-4TTY (4889).
80. Domestic Violence Hotlines and Resources. This page offers a listing of hotlines for each of the fifty states as well as other resources for help.

Organizations

From direct assistance to a plethora of helpful articles, these organizations and programs will provide all the information and help you need to learn about abuse.

81. Center for Relationship Abuse Awareness. While this group is based out of California, the tips and resources available are helpful for anyone dealing with an abusive relationship as well as for the family members who want to help.
82. Survivor Project. This organization helps same-sex and transgendered victims of domestic and sexual abuse.
83. Rural Womyn Zone. This site offers help and support for rural women who are victims of domestic violence.
84. DomesticViolence.org. Based in Michigan, this organization offers tons of information about domestic abuse on this site.
85. Safe Horizon. This organization works to provide support for families and help make changes to laws about domestic violence. Find a virtual tour of a domestic violence shelter, find out about stalking, and much more.
86. New Beginnings. This website is out of New Hampshire and offers direct services in that area, but also has a huge amount of valuable information for anyone involved in domestic violence.
87. National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. Learn how to protect yourself, take action to make changes in the law, and find out about public policy with this organization working to eliminate violence against women and children.
88. Stop Family Violence. Find help, get resources, and learn the latest news about domestic violence with this organization.
89. Stop Abuse for Everyone. This organization offers resources, publications and training for those who typically "fall between the cracks of domestic violence services."
90. Playing the Angel. This organization aims to give assistance to women and children in the U.S. and the U.K. who are victims of abuse. Find resources in both countries, sign petitions, and more.
91. MedLine Plus: Domestic Violence. This site offers a huge amount of information and articles on domestic violence, including overviews, coping, research, and more.
92. Women’s Web: Violence Against Women. Find plenty of articles about violence against women here. Topics include sexual abuse, stalking, and more.

Making a Difference

Whether you have survived an abusive relationship and came out on top or know someone who has experienced violence, you may feel that helping others and changing policy is where you need to put your energies now. These resources can connect you with ways to make that difference.

93. Men Stopping Violence. Through education and advocacy, this organization works to end men’s violence against women.
94. National Organization for Women. Learn how this group is helping to put an end to violence against women here.
95. Institute on Domestic Violence in the African American Community. Get the facts about violence and African Americans as well as learn about this organizations initiatives and ways to make a difference.
96. National Sexual Violence Resource Center. Find resources, get the latest news, read publications, find out about projects and more with the services available here.
97. Breaking Down the Walls. This performance artist is working to educate people about violence against women through her website and her presentations that she will perform for any organization hoping to spread education on these issues.
98. Silent Witness National Initiative. Join this organization in an effort to reduce domestic violence by the year 2010.
99. Promoting Family and Community Safety. This brief article offers suggestions on ways communities can make a difference with violence and abuse.
100. Assist Domestic Violence Shelters: Send Care Packages. Find out how you can make a difference with a simple yet important task that can help a woman just starting out feel like she’s a little less alone.

Possibly no other genre of literature has taken so much flak yet rebounded so gracefully than Chick Lit. Considered by some to be mindless drivel, a large portion of the literature is actually quality writing done by excellent authors. The following blogs all celebrate this oft-misunderstood genre. Find blogs about current Chick Lit, the predecessors of the genre, and even a new subcategory for the guys known as Lad Lit in this list below.

Current Literature

The following list of blogs touches on every imaginable aspect of current Chick Lit from quizzes to reviews to discussion groups within a blog.

1. Trashionista. Find out about books and movies inspired by books at this blog. You can even have your voice heard by participating in one of the quizzes like the recent one asking which book-turned-movie you would most like to see.
2. Literary Chicks. Written by six women, this blog focuses on books and life. The blog became inactive last year, but the archives are still around and worth checking out because good books are always in fashion.
3. Candy Covered Books. Specializing in "Chick Lit Book Reviews to those of Women’s Fiction," this blog gets several reviews and then rates the books. Similar to Amazon.com’s style, the book reviews include a number for how many reviews are compiled for each book and an average rating of 1 to 10 based on those reviews.
4. Chick Lit Books. Find reviews for current Chick Lit on this blog that is also organized by subcategories such as Mom Lit, Lad Lit, and Single City Girl. The blog was idle for a while but has started up again and may soon undergo a face lift.
5. Conversations with Famous Writers. Despite the title of this blog, it really is just book and book-to-movie reviews. Get the latest scoop on all the new releases in short, easy-to-read bursts.
6. Lovereading Blog. In addition to new releases and reviews, this blog offers a fun option of downloading the opening extracts of certain books so you can find out first hand if you might enjoy reading the entire book.
7. Books N Chocolate. Written by eight ladies, this blog features reviews (rated 1 to 5) for books with a definite touch of the Chick Lit variety. Apparently they like chocolate too.
8. Bookwormom. This blog features a wide variety of information from reviews to lists to off-topic posts about current events and other stuff.
9. Chick Literate. Find out where each book rates, from a broken heart to five hearts, in this blog. While many of the books reviewed here tend to lean toward the romantic, there are plenty of other Chick Lit genres represented too.
10. Bookish. While not all the reviews on this blog are completely current, the books reviewed are usually well worth checking out. Read this blog to find out what you should reach for on the library shelf next time.
11. lit*chick. Read reviews, join book discussion groups, and learn about the blogger’s family all in one spot. This blog offers a nice range of styles within the Chick Lit genre.
12. Great Reads!. Bordering just on the edge of Chick Lit, this blog brings reviews of young adult, romance, fantasy, and sci-fi. Subscribe to her RSS feed to stay on top of any updates.
13. Chick Lit Book Club. Find frequent blog posts with thorough reviews of current Chick Lit. If you want to really narrow your search, she has the reviews organized at the right side by four categories ranging from "Loved it!" to "Ugh! Hated it!"

Classic Chick Lit

Who says Chick Lit has to be modern? These blogs feature some of the stylish, glamorous women of an era gone by. If there was a category for Chick Lit back then, this literature would have been at the forefront.

14. AustenBlog. For anyone who thinks that the classics are old news, this blog proves them wrong. Not only can you read about anything written by Jane Austen, you can also find productions of her work, new edition releases, and more.
15. BronteBlog. Get bits of information about the Bronte sisters, find out about new releases of audio books, and learn about current references to the Bronte works in the news at this eclectic blog.
16. Girlebooks Blog. Not only does this blog feature books written by the great-grandmothers of Chick Lit, but you can also download the books for free at their site.
17. Jane Austen’s World. Another blog devoted to Jane Austen, this one brings together her literature with the culture of her time with bits about "food, dress, social customs, and other 19th C. historical details."
18. The Victorian Era. While not completely about the women, this blog does cover quite a lot of ground with posts ranging from terms for Victorian era mistresses to why strong Victorian women frequently had to die in literature.
19. The Victorian Novel’s Journal. Find interesting topics and read what others have posted about them here. While this blog seems to be currently idle, you can still appreciate the posts covering a topic that is almost 200 years old.

Romance Lit

A huge part of the Chick Lit movement is the sub-genre of Romance Lit. These blogs feature all the latest in romance.

20. eHarlequin.com Blogs. Check out the many blogs available through eHarlequin.com. As you would expect, they all have a bit of a romance lit focus to the varied topics.
21. I (Heart) Harlequin Presents. Written by the editors and authors at Harlequin, this blog features all the latest happening at Harlequin as well as insight to how the stories take shape, writing contests, and more.
22. Romancing the Blog. As you might guess, this blog is dedicated to romance literature. A collaborative blog, you can find reviews and much more about romance novels written by several different bloggers.
23. Black Velvet Seductions Romance Blog. This blog discusses various aspects of the romance novel genre, posts notices for contests and conventions, and more.
24. Romantic Times Blog. In addition to the book reviews on this blog, you can also get free downloads and see interviews with authors. Romance addicts will want to check out this blog.
25. Avon Romance Books Blog. Go behind the scenes at Avon Romance with their blog that gives you a bit of news and insight to what goes on at this publishing house. Of course, there are also book reviews and giveaways as well.
26. Romance B(u)y the Book. This devoted romance novel fan blogs about new novels, the industry, and even includes some pretty hot photos in a few posts. This blog will keep you updated on romance if you can’t get enough.
27. Regency Reader. This blogger is both a historical romance author and a huge romance fan in general. She has put together this blog, which includes reviews and entertaining top 10 lists, to help weed out the bad romance novels from the good.
28. Smart Bitches, Trashy Books. Attempting to take the mush and gush out of romance novel reviews, these women tell it to you like it is. If you like romance but want to cut through the trash, then this is the blog for you.
29. Talk About My Favorite Authors. This aspiring writer posts about books, authors, and more in this blog with a focus on romance and fantasy. She also features guest blogs and interviews with authors here.

Blogs with a Little Spice

The ultimate in strong, confident women, the literature featured in these blogs are a bit more risque than the typical romance novel.

30. Blog of a Bookslut. As the title would suggest, this woman’s blog has a special focus on literature and sex. Posts include topics such as famous writers who have written smut to pay the bills next to a much less racy recap of an interview with Ann Pachet.
31. Marla’s Blog turning the pages Between Your Sheets. Get book reviews and information about featured artists on this blog. The books are of the romance variety, but tend to have a few more steamy scenes than the average romance.
32. Dionne Galace. This blog written by a steamy romance author, offers serials of her writing, snarky comments on other romance novel covers, and a whole world of just-left-of-center posts.
33. The Smut Sluts. This blog unabashedly embraces the sexier side of Chick Lit with reviews, playful commentary, and some very enticing photos scattered about.

Blogs By Chick Lit Authors

If you thought the women writing Chick Lit stopped at their novels, you have a surprise coming. These blogs are all written by premier Chick Lit authors and are as worth reading as their work you find in stores.

34. Meg’s Diary. Written by Meg Cabot, this blog covers a wide range of topics from discussing whether or not "Chick Lit" is derogatory to photos of her kitten.
35. standBy Bert. Elizabeth Crane’s blog touches on movies she is watching, where she will be doing book readings, and other interests that catch her fancy.
36. Donna Kauffman. Who new TV could become Chick Lit? In the hands of this author, it does. Donna frequently writes about the TV she enjoys and suddenly you feel as if you are reading about the characters in one of her books.
37. Valerie Frankel’s Palace of Love. Valerie writes about her career, exciting new Ikea furniture, politics, and so much more. This entertaining blog is as good a read as her books.
38. Melissa Senate. This veteran romance novelist blogs about her books as well as other Chick Lit novels here. You will also find various other topics such as a sweet reminiscence about her son’s past year posted on his birthday.
39. Whitney Gaskell. There’s nothing like reading blogs written by writers for entertainment. Whitney touches on a variety of topics, but you must read the post relating a phone conversation with her mother.
40. Southern Comfort. Karin Gillespie’s blog brings you interviews with various authors interspersed with tidbits about her life and career. Karin has been blogging a while, so there are also plenty of archives to search for even more from her.
41. Lani Diane Rich. Another good example of why writers make good bloggers, this entertaining blog is all over the place with topics such as book research, iVillage makeovers, and reading through your urine.
42. Chica Lit. Mary Castillo blogs about various novels with an emphasis on her peers’ accomplishments. Keep up with the latest in Chick Lit that might not be front and center at the chain book store.
43. Ask Cecelia a Question. Take the opportunity to ask a question of Cecelia Ahern about any of her books and don’t forget to read the blog posts that chronicle her career.

Lad Lit

Not to leave out the boys, these blogs feature the sub-genre of Chick Lit that turns the focus to the guys–Lad Lit.

44. Nick Hornby. Maybe the most famous of the Lad Lit crowd, Nick blogs about politics, writing, and life. Check out this blog for a more frequent fix of Nick’s writing.
45. Dave Gorman. Read this entertaining blog, but settle in for a while. The lengthy posts range from IT problems to art.
46. Danny Wallace. Really stretching it to call this a blog, Danny’s site does offer updates on his books, downloads, appearances and much more.
47. Thomas Dowler. Hop on over to Thomas Dowler’s MySpace page to check out his blog. One of his more recent entries includes some works-in-progress.
48. Mike Gayle. Here’s another Lad Lit boy who prefers his blog on MySpace. Find out the latest on this U.K. novelist’s book readings and other happenings on his blog.
49. The Gospel According to Marc. Marc Acito blogs about everything from food to his career to inspiration. It looks like Marc updates daily, so go get your fix.
50. The Cult. While the entire blog isn’t written by Chuck Palahniuk, he has committed to writing an essay a month for all of 2008. Non-paying members must wait until the essays are a month old before viewing them.

Even if you’re not a huge fan of celebrity gossip, it’s hard to avoid all those blogs, tabloids and TV shows devoted to Lindsay Lohan’s latest missteps and which celebrity couple has just split. Amongst all the junk, there are some sources that are actually pretty smart, stylish and just plain addictive. For our favorite 100 celebrity blogs, check out the following lists, which include everything from celebrity fashion, and teeny bopper news to romance reports to international socialites.

Major Players

Here you’ll find some of the most famous and most trafficked celebrity blogs, including E! Online and TMZ.

1. TMZ: This celeb blog became famous when it broke the news of Mel Gibson’s DWI arrest.
2. Watch with Kristin: E! Online’s Kirstin Dos Santos blogs about the TV industry and its actors in her blog.
3. Perez Hilton: Perez Hilton blogs about celebrities from Tyra Banks to Paris Hilton to "Sluttyienna Miller."
4. The Superficial: The Superficial reports on the beautiful people "because you’re ugly."
5. Damn I’m Cute: View pictures of hot celebrities and read regular posts on celebrity birthdays.
6. Socialite Life: Despite its title, Socialite Life reports on more than just socialites. Popular subjects include Jennifer Aniston, Rhianna, Katie Holmes and the Gossip Girls.
7. Defamer: This slightly more professional looking celebrity blog covers Hollywood news from the past and present.
8. Jossip: Jossip, "the gossip’s gossip sheet" is a very popular, well organized celebrity blog that gives equal attention to teen stars as it does to news anchors and the publishing industry.
9. Hollyscoop: View photos and read celebrity gossip from stars in the entertainment, movie, TV, music and fashion industries.
10. E! Online: The TV station’s website recently got a makeover and is now in a blog format, letting readers subscribe via RSS or to podcasts.

More than a Celebrity Blog

These blogs offer more than just celebrity postings. You can also access biographies, videos, podcasts, games, forums and more.

11. Anything Hollywood: Besides regular blog posts, you can find actor and actress bios, videos, and polls and voting games.
12. Allie is Wired: Read celeb news, watch videos, participate in the community forums and more.
13. Best Week Ever: Check out the blog for the famous MTV show here, where writers and editors weigh in on the ridiculous celebrity stories of the week and make them even funnier.
14. Celebrity Dirty Laundry: Read celebrity news and play the Dirty Laundry game to vote on your favorite posts.
15. Celebslam: Visit this blog for sarcastic article titles and pictures of Hottie McTotties like Jessica Simpson and Jennifer Aniston.
16. CelebTV: Watch videos, browse photos and read posts about popular celebrities, their romances and new gigs.
17. Jezebel: Smart, sassy writers dissect celebrity news, gossip and fashion on Jezebel.
18. Popsugar: This blog really is "insanely addictive," as it advertises. Popsugar also features an online community and games.
19. PopCrunch: Read the blog and then watch videos on the PopCrunch show to see your favorite celebrities in action.
20. The Insider: Here’s the blog for the TV tabloid show The Insider, where you can catch up on up-to-the minute news and photos of celebrities.

Fashion

For the latest in celebrity fashion trends, model news and fashion designers, visit our favorite fashion blogs, like FabSugar, The Cut, Fashionista and The Sartorialist.

21. CoutureCandy: CoutureCandy’s celebrity gossip blog mostly features the stylish celebrities, like Kirsten Dunst and Eva Longoria.
22. The Cut: New York Magazine’s fashion blog, the Cut, reports on everything from the fashion world, including new designers, runway show, model news, fashion week, Hollywood and more.
23. Fashionista: Those who count Philip Lim, Jessica Stam and Julia Restoin-Roitfeld as their favorite celebrities will appreciate Fashionista’s blog.
24. FabSugar: Part of PopSugar’s family, FabSugar covers fashion and celebrity trends.
25. GlamChic: Get the latest fashion trends and view pictures of models and fashion insiders here.
26. The Sartorialist: Famous fashion photographer Scott Schuman snaps creative dressers and beautiful outfits, including those worn by models and fashion editors, all around the world.
27. Celebrity Beauty Buzz: This blog shares "the latest in celebrity fashion, beauty and fitness," from Scarlett Johansson’s red lipstick fetish to Katie Holmes’ latest haircut.
28. Talking Makeup: This blog is all about haircare, makeup, beauty products, bath products and celebrity makeup trends.
29. StyleIkon: Stars like Jessica Simpson, Kate Hudson and Madonna are the features of this blog.
30. Celebrity Style Guide Blog: Find out what celebrities like Nicole Richie, Miley Cyrus, Kimberly Stewart and Nicky Hilton are wearing on this blog.

Celebrity Diets and Bodies

For diet inspiration and insight into which stars are losing weight, visit these body-conscious blogs.

31. Celebrity Body Gossip: Learn about all the diets, weight gains and controversy surrounding popular stars like Lindsay Lohan, Blake Lively and Cameron Diaz.
32. Egotastics: View pictures of stars in their swimsuits and skimpy duds here.
33. I’m Not Obsessed: Here you’ll find tons of celebrity gossip and news, as well as a community, contests, and a FitCeleb page that’s all about healthy eating, exercise and thin celebrities.
34. The Skinny Website: Find out who’s getting scary skinny and who may have gained a few on this celebrity body tracker.
35. Star Diet Secrets: Dieters can get inspiration from viewing photos and learning about the diets of Bar Rafaeli, Mischa Barton, Julianne Hough and others.
36. Celebrity Diet Blog: Here you’ll learn about the diets that keep Angelina Jolie and Katie Holmes super svelte.
37. Celebrity Girls: From Brooke Burke to Jennifer Garner, fit and beautiful celebrity women are featured on this site.
38. Celebs Now: This blog posts lots of photos of celebrities like Adrianne Curry and Miranda Kerr.
39. Celebs Planet: From revealing ad campaigns to stars in swimsuits, this body conscious blog features photos of Eva Mendes, Kate Hudson and Jennifer Aniston.
40. Pretty on the Outside: From vintage shots of Javier Bardem to magazine covers to random celeb news, this blog is all about "what’s pretty today."

Bitchy

Part of the reason we love celebrity blogs is the bitch factor. For sarcasm, mugshots and other unforgiving photos, turn to these bloggers.

41. Celebrity Smack: This site has been "smackin’ celebs since 2004." You’ll find fake conversation bubbles, celebrity boxing match ups and more.
42. CelebWarship: Alyk, CelebWarship’s blogger loves that this site has been noted in the press for its "mean-spirited interpretation of celebrity stupidity."
43. celebitchy: This blog isn’t afraid to ask the real questions like "What happened to Orlando Bloom’s Career" and why does "John Mayer like to watch Jennifer Aniston in Leprechaun?"
44. Celebridiot: This blog understands that "celebrities are idiots too," so everything is fair game.
45. What Would Tyler Durden Do: Get the lowdown on rumors, scandals and other juicy gossip involving movie stars and more.
46. Dlisted: Dlisted cautions celebrities to "be very afraid," as their break-ups, movie flops and fashion choices are ridiculed here.
47. Celebrity Puke: Read sarcastic posts that jeer at celebrities on Celebrity Puke.
48. Celebrity Skank: Posts on this blog include "Britney as Lesbian Serial Killer" and "Zac Efron Sports a New Hairband… HAWT!" giving readers a silly look at celebrities.
49. Celebrity Catfights: Which celebrities would you love to see fight? Vote on this blog.
50. The Dirty Disher: Here you’ll find "celebrity gossip dished daily with no sympathy."

Teeny Boppers

Indulge your guilty pleasure of teeny bopper fashion and all things celebrity here.

51. Disney Society: This site features posts about Disney celebs like Miley Cyrus and The Cheetah Girls.
52. Junior Celebs: From Selena Gomez to Amanda Bynes to HSM, you’ll get it all here.
53. Efron freak: This blog is totally devoted to Zac Efron.
54. oceanUP: Celebrities often featured on this blog include Taylor Swift and The Jonas Brothers.

Photo Blogs

Browse through photos of celebrities on the street, at premieres, concerts, fashion shows, restaurants and more when you visit these photo blogs.

55. SheKnows Celebrity Photo Blog: From movie premieres to stars on the set, this blog is packed with celebrity photos.
56. Hot Celebrity Photos: Photos are posted on this blog of Hayden Panettiere, Jessica Biel and others.
57. Celebrity Picture: View pictures of Scarlett Johansson on Jay Leno and see Rhianna at the beach on this blog.
58. Popeater: From movie and music news to celeb rehab to stars out on the town, you’ll get it all here.
59. Mr. Paparazzi: Let Mr. Paparazzi do all the dirty work, letting you browse photos of Tyra, Ryan Phillippe and others.
60. Spreadit: Halle Berry, Carrie Underwood and Brad Pitt are featured here.

D-Listers

Besides getting the latest gossip on Brad and Angelina, these blogs also reveal scandals and stories about D-list celebs.

61. Mollygood: Get the gossip on the celebrities you actually care about and the ones you don’t on Mollygood.
62. Hollywood Rag: Though you can also read about stars like Kate Bosworth and Jamie Foxx, this blog pays a lot of attention to Tori Spelling and Pam Anderson.
63. Celebs Crash: This blog reports on shoddy celebrity behavior and scandals.

Rumors and Gossip

For even more juicy gossip and rumors surrounding the most popular celebrities, you can visit these blogs.

64. Celebrilarity: Check this blog, which organizes posts like a newspaper, for gossip about Lindsay Lohan, Miley Cyrus and others.
65. Celebrity Gossip 101: this online community features user blogs, forums and a photo album.
66. Celebrity Crust: From romance reports to celebrity health stories, turn to Celebrity Crust.
67. Celebrity Mound: Sports stars, movie stars, and of course, Paris Hilton are featured here.
68. Celebrity Trashcan: Look for celebrity mugshots and get the latest on hook-ups, break-ups and more on this blog.
69. Feed Me Gossip: From movie premieres to candid shots, this website tracks stars wherever they go.
70. Gabby Babble: Gabby Babble has "the juicy juice," from Lindsay Lohan to celebrity babies to interviews.
71. Candy Kirby: From a "who wore it best: hair edition" post comparing Mariah Carey and little Bindi Irwin to ad-libbing for celebrity photos, this blogger is super funny and super addictive.
72. In Case You Didn’t Know: If you love looking at candid shots of celebrities, you can indulge yourself here.
73. Girl Retro: Girl Retro is a super addictive blog that posts quickie news items and photos of favorite female celebs like Jessica Alba and Sienna Miller.

International Celebrities and Socialites

From the Danish royalty to Prince William and beyond, these bloggers are obsessed with international stars and socialites.

74. Goss UK: This UK-based blog also posts on LA gossip.
75. Sponkit Celebrity Blog: Get the romance report on your favorite TV, movie, music and even royal family celebrities.
76. The Black Socialite: View photos and find out what black socialites and celebrities like Nicole Fiscella and other movers and shakers are up to.
77. Danish Royal Watchers: Who knew stalking the Danish could be so addicting?

News

Here you can catch up on casting news, marriage announcements, divorces, baby news and other celeb stories.

78. Celebrity Blog: View videos and read about breaking news in Hollywood here.
79. 1Gossip: This site organizes links from other celebrity news stories.
80. A Hot Mess!: This funny blog catches celebrities like Chris Brown and Amy Winehouse at awkward moments.
81. Celeb News Wire: Check this site for updated celebrity news about stars like John Mayer, Angelina Jolie, Lindsay Lohan, David Beckham and others.
82. Bumpshack: Get the lowdown on wedding rumors, casting news, and of course all the arrests and missteps of celebs.
83. Splash News: Get breaking news from Hollywood here.
84. Daily Blabber: iVillage’s celebrity blog, Daily Blabber, is full of photos and posts about the most popular celebrities.
85. Absolutely Fabulous: This news site has lots of great features, from a too-skinny celebrity watch to a forum, photo gallery and more.
86. Celebrity Weasel: Celebrity Weasel finds the best celebrity news and gossip stories on the Web and then links them to its site.
87. Lepaparazzi: Learn about casting news, celebrity scandals and more on this blog.
88. Daily Stab: Get movie reviews, celebrity photos and Glam TV videos here.
89. Hollywood Offender: From celebrity arrests to casting news, get it all here.
90. New Paparazzi: The title of this site has gotten it right, as celebrity bloggers are now taking over. Categories range from alcohol to Anna Kournikova to eating disorders to Disney.

Miscellaneous

From celebrity babies to celebrity dogs, these niche blogs are fun to visit for another look at celeb life.

91. Celebrity Baby Blog: This very popular blog reports on Hollywood pregnancy news, photos of new celeb babies and more.
92. Gawker: New Yorkers turn to Gawker to learn about new restaurants, celebrity gossip and society news.
93. Agent Bedhead: This guy is a little pretentious but comes up with funny titles and posts like "Peaches Geldof: Now a Verified Idiot" and "Only One Person Can Make Robert Downey Jr. Seem Less Cool."
94. All About Nobodies: Read about the stars who are famous for doing nothing, like Paris Hilton, Britney Spears’ mom and The Hills club.
95. Celebrity Dog Blog: This site tracks the pooches that celebs like Chris Brown, Mariah Carey and Parker Posey carry around.
96. ValleyWag: Get the news and gossip of Silicon Valley here.
97. CityRag: This New York-focused celebrity and city blog also covers gossip about West Coast-ers like Kim Kardashian.
98. Queerty: Read about gay celebrities and gossip that relates to the gay community here.
99. Stereohyped: The black entertainment industry and political community is gossiped about here.
100. The Bosh: Get previews of new magazine covers and celebrity interviews at The Bosh.

We honestly love celebrities. The D-listers, the beautiful people and everyone in between. But sometimes, we have to scratch our heads at the match-ups made in Hollywood. We know we should be used to older, overweight rich men getting gorgeous babes, but for some reason we can’t get over it. To celebrate our confusion, we’ve put together this list of 10 ridiculous celebrities — ridiculous meaning anything from reality star to party girl to just plain tacky — and the arm candy they love to show off.

1. Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon: Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon surprised everyone when they first started dating, but when they got married soon after, things got really confusing. So who’s the arm candy and who’s the ridiculous one? Cannon, 11 years younger than Mariah, is pretty sexy and kind of successful, though a little goofy, and Carey, who’s of course super rich, quite attractive and maybe a little foolish when it comes to career choices, actually seems to be at the top of her game now with her popular E=MC2 album and slimmer figure.
2. Hugh Hefner and Holly Madison: Of all the ridiculous celebrities out there, Hugh Hefner is one of the most ridonkulous. He’s always had arm candy, ever since he started the whole Playboy thing back in the 50s (yes 50s). His current, actual girlfriend, Holly Madison, is more than just a boob job and blonde hair, though. She’s actually really pretty, albeit a little deluded about expecting Hef to propose so they can live happily ever after…with all the other bunnies.
3. Nicolas Sarkozy and Carla Bruni: We know that you don’t get to be the president of France if you’re totally ridiculous, but Nicolas Sarkozy has gotten a lot of flack for suddenly marrying a former supermodel and pop star after getting divorced just four months earlier. Carla Bruni, who is still amazingly gorgeous after a long time at the top of celebrity, including romances with other high profile stars like Eric Clapton and Mick Jagger, has been on the arm of her husband during trips to England and Egypt, and the two have been spotted nuzzling at cafes and at more official events. The French, who we all thought were major supporters of affairs and PDA have "grow[n] weary" of seeing their president act like silly teenage boy at every turn.
4. Linda Hogan and Charley Hill: This relationship might just be the most ridiculous and bizarre one of the year. Linda Hogan’s much younger conquest, the 19-year old Charley Hill and former classmate of Linda’s daughter Brooke, is just as blonde and tan and crazy looking as his new girlfriend, and frankly, we’re all kind of upset. The two have been cavorting around not long after Hulk Hogan and Linda separated and after Nick Hogan went to jail for reckless driving. By way of Popcrunch, one tabloid dishes that "[Linda Hogan] even says Charlie is the best sex she’s ever had" and that Hogan threw a party for his friends, who repaid her by stealing "tons of pictures and valuables while at the party." Oh, and just to be clear, we’re only letting Charley Hill pull the youth card to qualify for arm candy status, because we haven’t seen a decent picture of him yet.
5. Spencer Pratt and Heidi Montag: Spencer Pratt and Heidi Montag: Perhaps the ultimate in ridiculous/D-list/annoying celebrities, Spencer Pratt, of The Hills fame and cheesy photo ops, is the one in the group who absolutely does not count as arm candy. Heidi Montag, who probably was a cute little blonde in high school, is starting to push her luck, as her participation in said PDA-infused photo ops is incredibly nauseating. Not to mention the blonder and blonder hair, fake lips and boob job. Is there a difference anymore between arm candy and trophy wife? Please make them go away.
6. Taylor Locke and Mischa Barton: Here we have another case of two hotties turned ridiculous celebrities, so in effect, they can each fit into both categories, making it all the easier on us. Taylor Locke, a guitar player for the group Rooney, is actually pretty cute. Mischa Barton, back in the day, was seriously popular and sexy thanks to The O.C.. Touted as an edgy fashionista, Barton is starting to go over board with her hippie looks and fascination with the 60s and 70s: a trend that Locke has embraced as well. Put them together, and you get two beautiful people ruined by silly costumes.
7. Jack Black and Tanya Haden: Okay, we get it. Jack Black is funny. Sometimes he’s hysterical. Sometimes he’s annoying. But he’s also married to the very pretty Tanya Haden, who must love boisterous, chubby dudes with kind of intense facial expressions. She’s also a cellist and singer and has worked with various other respected artists, including her triplet sisters Rachel and Petra. Yup, that’s right. Jack Black got himself triplets. Black and Haden have been married since 2006 and have two sons.
8. Harvey Weinstein and Georgina Chapman: Georgina Chapman is elegant, refined and talented. Harvey Weinstein is rich and powerful. Okay, we’ve never met him, so he might also be a really sweet guy. But he’s also a little unattractive and messy looking. Chapman, one half of the design team of Marchesa, married Weinstein in Connecticut in December of 2007 in front of guests like Anna Wintour, Jennifer Lopez, Quentin Tarantino, NYC Mayor Bloomberg, Denzel Washington and others, and the couple is at the top of Hollywood, New York, fashion and entertainment royalty.
9. Sacha Baron Cohen and Isla Fisher: God knows we all love us some Borat and Ali G. And to be quite honest, without the crazy costumes and facial hair, Sacha Baron Cohen isn’t that unattractive. But in the non-celebrity world, most might say that Wedding Crashers star Isla Fisher is out of his league. The feisty and super silly red head is also very hot and working on converting to Judaism for her fiance. The couple already has a baby girl together.
10. Beth Ostrosky and Howard Stern: Nineties actress Beth Ostrosky is 5’10, blonde and also a swimsuit model. Howard Stern has a serious fan base and is very rich, loves to be controversial and isn’t that pretty. But the couple has been together since 2000 and an October 2008 wedding is suspected. Stern obviously recognizes a gift from a God when he gets one, telling Ostrosky — by way of Extra TV — that "I’m very honored to be engaged to you. I think what we have is true love." Awww.

Whether you’re a seasoned veteran of sexual conquests, a newbie looking to explore your sexuality or somewhere in between just looking for advice, the internet is full of experts and advice sites that can help you resolve or get help with just about any sexual question or issue you’re facing. Best of all, it provides a shield of anonymity that may make it easier for you to ask questions and seek answers you might be otherwise embarrassed to pursue. Here are a few blogs you can check out for information and advice on a wide range of sexual and relationship issues.

Professionals

Get advice from those with professional degrees and licensure from these helpful and reliable sites.

1. Dr. Petra Boynton: Dr. Petra works at a London University educating doctors and nurses on issues related to relationships and sex and you can get some great advice from her blog as well.
2. Sex Matters: Take some advice from professional sex therapist and Jacqueline Hellyer in the posts from this blog where she talks about issues ranging from the history of sex to the psychology behind it all.
3. FoxSexpert: Check out this Fox News blog to get advice from Dr. Yvonne Fulbright on all issues related to sex and relationships.
4. Sexual Health: Sex Matters: Dr. Louanne Cole Weston provides her advice and insight on everything from sexual dysfunction to dealing with high maintenance partners and everything in between.
5. Healthy Relationships: Mira Kirshenbaum is a psychotherapist who uses the space on this blog to discuss issues of sexuality and relationships with a special focus on infidelity and affairs.
6. Center for Healthy Sex:Licensed Sex Therapist Alex Katehakis gives guidance about dealing with issues of sexual dysfunction including sex addiction and sexual anorexia.
7. Adolescent Sexuality: Worried about your teen’s growth into sexual maturity? This site, written by Dr. Karen Rayne, can give you some advice on how to talk to your kids honestly about sex.
8. Cheeky Tomato Sex Expert: Syndicated talk show host and sex expert Sue McGarvie gives sexual advice in this blog on everything from yoga poses to enhance your sexual experience to what foods are aphrodisiacs.
9. Dr. Romance Blog: Dr. Tina Tessina can give readers some guidance on everyday issues in sex and romance on this blog.
10. Daily Bedpost: Readers of this blog can send in their own questions and read about news and issues that are relevant to sex and relationships, written by an OB/GYN and two sex experts.

Gender Specific

Whether you’re a man or a woman, these blogs deliver advice catered just to your needs.

11. Divine Women: Women can find all kinds of advice from a number of bloggers including women of all ages and a professional sex expert on this helpful site.
12. Baggage Reclaim: Catering primarily to women, this site provides advice and articles on dating, relationships, self-esteem and of course, sex.
13. Respect Rx: If you’re looking for sex advice the promotes women becoming empowered and in control of their sexuality look no further than this site which has advice for women and young girls on a variety of relationship topics.
14. SexySmart: Here you’ll find sex advice from sociologists, sex experts, sex educators and more on how to explore your sexuality in a safe and smart way.
15. Ask Mason: This blog is written by a man for women to help them understand all the things the men they are with do and say.
16. The Momatrix: Moms can get sexual advice from the perspective of a parent by checking out this audio blog.
17. Women’s Health Zone: Women can visit this site to learn all the ways they can protect their sexual health throughout their lives.
18. Dad’s House: Blogger David shares his experiences navigating dating and sex as a single father in this forthright and entertaining blog.
19. Men’s Sexual Health Blog: Men can read through the posts on this blog to ensure that they are taking care of their total sexual health.
20. The Frisky: Written to appeal to women readers, this blog provides commentary on everything from what makes celebrities attractive to preventing STDs.

General Sex Blogs

Get access to information and support of all kinds on these informative sex advice blogs.

21. Pillow Talk With a Sassy Sexpert: This blog is written by an aspiring sex and marriage therapist who provides advice and commentary on relationships in an often fun and lighthearted manner.
22. Amanda the Love Doc: Here you’ll find advice primarily for women on how to date older men, please someone sexually, care for your nether regions and more.
23. Pillow Talk: This blog will give you advice on everything from planning your wedding day to what sexual positions may be easiest while pregnant.
24. The Dinah Blog: Check out this blog for articles on having safe sex, taking care of your sexuality and leading a sexually healthy life.
25. Kinsey Confidential: The Kinsey Institute runs this blog which shares advice and newsworthy findings on sex and sexuality for people of all ages.
26. Sexuality on About.com: This site can be a great starting point for finding all the advice and information you need to deal with a wide range of sexual issues with you and your partner.
27. Hot and Bothered: Redbook hosts this blog which covers topics that range from sexual fantasies to dating an ex in a relatable and easy to read format.
28. Tango Love Blogs: Here you’ll find several blogs that deal with sex and relationships at all stages from single and dating to married with kids.
29. Mature Sex Advice: Older readers will appreciate this blog, which offers sexual advice to seniors who are looking for new love or who want to spice up marriage.
30. Singles Podcasting Network: Check out this blog for the latest updates on podcasts that have to do with relationships, dating and sex.
31. Sexual Health Buzz: Read authoritative articles on sexual health issues including STD’s and contraception in this blog.
32. Bare Bits: Get both the male and female perspective on numerous sex and romance issues in this frank and informative blog.
33. The Virginity Project: Ever wanted to share the story of how you lost your virginity? This site aims to collect stories from people all over the world.
34. Good Vibrations: This blog encourages an open discussion of sexuality and covers issues like sex toys and personal satisfaction.

Q & A

Have a sexual question you want help with? These blogs provide a great place to send in your queries and get the help you need.

35. Frankly Speaking Journal: Ask your sexual and relationship questions of Lou Paget in this long standing blog. You can get advice on your specific problems or generally suggestions on improving your sexual experience in the bedroom.
36. Advice from a Single Dating Expert: What better place to get advice on sex and dating than from someone who’s still single and in the same boat as you? Check out this blog for answers to your questions and helpful advice.
37. Savage Love: This popular column written by Dan Savage provides sex advice to even the kinkiest of questions leaving no stone unturned when it comes to frank sexual discussion.
38. Ask Dan and Jennifer: Here you can check out all the advice and articles written by relationship experts Dan and Jennifer and even write in with your own questions about sex.
39. Ask Mars Venus: If you’ve ever read the books Men Are from Mars and Women Are from Venus then you might enjoy the advice from this blog, written by professional relationship coaches.
40. Ask April: Get frank relationship advice from author and relationship advice expert April Masini on this site.
41. Go Ask Alice: While primarily geared towards college students, this site can provide valuable advice on sexual health and sexuality for people of all ages.
42. (Queer)ies: This site provides a place for those in the gay and lesbian communities to get advice and guidance on sexual and relationship issues.
43. Ask Dog: Send in your queries, serious or otherwise, about sex and dating to this advice blog.
44. Dear Sugar: This site provides a place for people of all ages to get advice on their sexual questions and relationship issues.

Spicing Things Up

Don’t let your bedroom routine get boring. Check out these blogs for some advice and inspiration on bringing some spice back into your sex life.

45. Super Sexpert: Tracey Cox, an experienced sex therapist, doles out advice on living out your fantasies in the bedroom, sex positions to try and how to improve your techniques in bed in this iVillage blog.
46. The Principles of Pleasure: Written by an employee of the famous Pleasure Chest shop in New York City, this blog explores many ways you can spice up sex with a partner or just by yourself. Readers should be advised, however, that it probably is NSFW reading.
47. Adult Toys: This obviously NSFW blog can be a great source of information for bringing sexual toys into the bedroom. No need to prefer a dog, when sex toys are there.
48. The Explorers Blog: Get some ideas on how to explore and get adventurous in the bedroom from the reviews and suggestions in this blog.
49. SexPress Yourself: Check out this site to read stories about the sexual adventures of others to get some ideas for your own romance life.
50. Sex Rev 2.0: Blogger Regina Lynn discusses sexual issues frankly in this blog which deals with things like sex toys, sex in virtual worlds and much more.

Whether you’re looking for ways to spice things up in the bedroom with the spouse you’ve been with for a decade, or you’re just trying to think up some new tricks for your next casual encounter, your search for tips and cheatseets on the subject of sex has led you to the right place. In this list of 100 guides, you’ll find advice for role playing, foreplay, losing your inhibitions, understanding the male and female bodies, tips for lesbian and gay couples, and a whole lot more.

Pleasing Her

Brush up on your female anatomy and learn how to really satisfy a woman by reading these guides.

1. A Man’s Guide to Knowing Her Sweet Spots: Get the lowdown on sweet spots like ears, lips, nape of the neck, feet, and even behind the knees.
2. How to Please Your Woman: Check out member articles and tips from Helium.com on the subject of being a better lover.
3. Women’s Sexual Anatomy: SeekWellness.com explains the female anatomy in a sexual context here.
4. How to Satisfy Any Woman: Learn how to set the mood and be more spontaneous when you read this article.
5. How Men Can Last Longer: Learn how to avoid climaxing too soon.
6. He is Too Big for Me: What Can I do to Make Sex Better?: Couples with a size problem can get tips from this article.
7. 15 Sex Tips from Women: If you really want a woman’s point of view but are too embarrassed to ask your partner, check out this list.
8. How Can I Last Longer During Sex?: Here is another guide from Kinsey Confidential that gives tips for lasting longer in bed.
9. Sex Tips: Know More About Foreplay: Find out why foreplay is so important in this article.
10. 20 Top Sex Tips for Men: The Times Online offers up great advice like "be careful with drink" and being responsible with protection and STDs.

Pleasing Him

From fellatio to massages, this list is full of tips and tricks that men love to see in the sack.

11. Wendy Williams’ Sex Advice: Get a summary and watch a clip of this new Fox morning show.
12. Sex Tips to Please Men: This simple post encourages women to really explore every part of their man’s body.
13. Will Smith on Sex: If you want an easy answer to how to please your man, read this post.
14. Better Sex Tips for Women: This blog offers a lot of great tips for women over 40 who want to experience a better sex life.
15. Male Reproductive Anatomy: Understand every part of the male reproductive area when you take a look at this diagram from the Medline Plus medical encyclopedia.
16. Thirty one tips for women to make sex great for men: Tips in this article include paying attention to the perineum, talking dirty, and being more spontaneous.
17. Oral Sex Tips for Women: Women get a crash course in blow jobs here.
18. How to Strip for Your Man: Get costume ideas and dance moves here.
19. Where has the lust gone?: This article has tips for spicing it up whenever you can.
20. Fellatio: Holistic Wisdom offers up tips for women who want to master this oral technique.

Experimenting

Here you’ll learn all about experimental sex, including reenacting porn, threesomes and more.

21. Naughty Gifts That Keep on Giving: This article shares ideas for making your own fun gifts for the bedroom. If you want to create customized undergarments for your partner, take advantage of these Customized Girl Coupons.
22. Water Play: This guide reveals different places you and your partner can bring water play into your sexual experience.
23. Explosive Tantric Sex Techniques: Learn about PC muscle contractions, teasers and more here.
24. 7 Rules for MFM Threesome: If you’re thinking of being in a two male on one female threesome, read this article first.
25. Kissing Tips: It’s never too late to become a better kisser: learn how in this Ask April piece.
26. Threesomes: A User’s Guide: Get a realistic look at how to "manage a menage a trois."
27. Porn: When it Helps and When it Hurts: Before you decide that porn is the best way to spice up your relationship, take a look at this article.
28. Better Sex Tips: Switch up your sex positions by reading about different ones here.
29. 8 Mildly Bizarre Sex Tips: Your curiosity may just get the better of you when you read about butt plugs, masks and stripper’s poles.
30. Are Sex Parties the New Vibrator?: For especially daring couples, here’s an article about the new popularity of sex parties.

Role Playing

From serious bondage to less intimidating role playing games, this list is for couples interested in all levels of sexual fantasy.

31. Infusing Fantasy into Your Sex Life: This article helps you make your wildest sex dreams come true…through fantasy. If you want to dress that part, check out this awesome costume coupon.
32. 10 Things Good Girls Can Learn from Porn Stars: Understanding that men are visual creatures, ditching routine sex tricks and showing enthusiasm are all great tips listed in this article.
33. The Art of Role Playing: Learn about different scenarios like teacher/student and artist/model here.
34. I Don’t Know how to Role Play: Cosmo answers this reader’s call for help in the role playing department.
35. Role Playing: This article believes that role playing is a major part of "the new male sexuality."
36. Why Spanking and Bondage?: If your role playing fantasy involves spanking or bondage, you’ll find all the tips and techniques you’re looking for right here.
37. How to Explore Fantasy Sexual Role Play: This step-by-step guide from About.com shares tips for getting creative, getting used to dirty talk and choosing costumes and props.
38. Role Playing Among the Boundaries of Your Bedroom: This blog encourages couples to get wild in their own bedrooms through role playing.
39. Bedroom Fun Ideas: This article lists role playing as one of the sexiest and most fun tricks for the bedroom.
40. Ideas, how-tos and scenarios: Couples interested in bondage and more serious role playing can get ideas and tips here.

Getting Comfortable

Lose your inhibitions and get in the mood for sex by reading these guides.

41. 9 Sexy Bedroom Makeovers: Set the mood by redecorating your bedroom according to this guide.
42. Top 10 Aphrodisiacs to Awake a Sexual Animal in Him: Whipped cream, oysters and even celery are listed as aphrodisiacs in this article.
43. Wicked Ways to Warm Up: Tips offered in this article include masturbating in front of each other and doing lots of teasing and touching.
44. Letting Go in Bed: Cosmo’s article about going "full-throttle" in bed helps you be in the moment and lose your inhibitions.
45. Morning Sex: How to Initiate?: College Candy’s Lauren from the University of Michigan doesn’t want you to be afraid of morning sex. Here, she shares tips for getting some before you start the day.

Being More Intimate

Sex isn’t just about the physical stuff: learn how to make a more meaningful connection with your partner here.

46. The Art of Touching: If you think sex is all about pounding and grinding, you’re in for a big surprise. Learn about the art of touch here.
47. Your Spouse: a Friend or Lover?: This article explores "kosher sex:" a balance between passion and intimacy.
48. 10 Ways to Become More Intimate With Your Lover: Tips here include making eye contact, breathing more deeply, role playing and trying new things.
49. The Secret to the Best Sex Ever: Intimacy, according to Lisa Love, can "vastly improv[e] your sexual experience." So. Get. On. It.
50. Sex With Your Eyes Open: Is it romantic or creepy? Consider this tip when trying to be more connected to your partner.

Lesbian and Gay Couples

For unique sex tips and games for lesbian and gay couples, look here.

51. Qtantra: This guide has tantric sex techniques and tips for lesbians.
52. How to: Massage: GayLifeUK doles out lots of great tips for mastering the massage.
53. Gay Sex Positions: Try out new positions with this guide that includes photos.
54. Fantasizing with your girlfriend: Lesbian couples wanting to spice up their sex life may want to consider different types of role play and fantasy games.
55. Lesbian Sex Tips: From oral sex to erotic massage and everything in between, WhereGirlsKissGirls shares all kinds of lesbian sex tips.
56. The Lovers’ Guide: Gay Sex Play: Gay men can read articles about being a better, more intimate and more adventurous lover here.

Toys and Extras

Get reviews, tips and more for implementing the use of toys, music and games into your sex life.

57. My Boyfriend and I Want to Spice Up Our Sex Life: This article is all about the fun of using sex toys.
58. Fun and Games: Lovingyou.com’s huge list of sex games and inspiration can be a great jumping off point for you and your partner.
59. Music for Sex: This post considers what it’s like to have sex to Madonna’s "Justify My Love" or a Garry Moore song.
60. Sex with Mirrors: Experience the novelty and surprise of using mirrors to enhance your sex life when you read all about it here.
61. Simple Love Secrets: This blog shares tips for better sex but also features new sex toys and accessories.
62. Sex Toy Guide: This all-in-one guide offers reviews, lets you browse sex toys based on female or male pleasure, and shares tips for using and picking out sex toys.
63. Afterplay: Possibly just as important as foreplay, afterplay can mean more intimacy or gearing up for another round.

Getting Out of Bed

Sex doesn’t have to be limited to the bedroom. Learn about other wild and crazy places to get it on.

64. 8 Erotic Encounters: Top Places to be Naughty: From the car to a shopping trip, these places are great for quickies.
65. Top 10 Places You’re Making Love: What’s sexier: the hood of a car, the top of a pool table, an elevator or a trampoline? Try all 10 and then add one of your own to the list.
66. The Worst Places for Public Sex: Before you get too carried away, check out this list of the worst places to get on, including bars and airplanes.
67. Crazy, Sexy, Strange: The Top 10 Wildest Places You’ve Had Sex: Why not try the library, on a conference table or the stairwell?
68. 102 Places to Have Sex: You’ll never run out of new places to do it when you print out this list.
69. 8 Great Places to Have Sex: From around-the-house hot spots to beaches and hotel rooms, this list has several great ideas.
70. Water Sex and Infections, STDs and Health Risks: Before you get frisky in the hot tub, read this article to learn about possible infections and STD risks.

Foreplay

Get in the mood and make your sexual experience last even longer with great foreplay.

71. Tantric Foreplay: From blindfolding to special massages, this post has great tips for tantric foreplay.
72. Your Tips for Great Foreplay: Readers share foreplay ideas like using ice and teasing during oral sex.
73. Foreplay Sex Tips: The Sex eZine emphasizes the importance of focusing on the legs, nibbling and playing simple games.
74. Hot Foreplay Tips: Read this article to find out what tips the Seduction Tutor recommends.
75. 3 Super Hot Foreplay Sex Tips that will Result in Unbelievable Orgasms for Any Relationship: If you want a major orgasm, try out these foreplay tips.
76. Sexual Foreplay Tips to Help Arouse Her: Foreplay is especially important for women, so men can use this guide to focus on getting their woman in the mood.
77. The Facts on Foreplay: Ask April shares a lot of tips for good foreplay, from being intimate and being physical to knowing when to say when.
78. Anatomically Challenged: Here’s a guide for guys who want to learn more about "what’s going on down there" with their female partners.
79. The Importance of Foreplay: Learn about overstimulation and basic tips for foreplay here.
80. Foreplay by the Signs: Did you know that Capricorns like to be on top, Scorpios want it "all day every day," and that Leos like costumes?

Exercises, Fitness and Self Sexuality

Sex isn’t just about pleasing your partner, it’s also about understanding your own sexuality. Below are tips and guides that will help you learn more about what turns you on, making you a better lover.

81. Kegel Exercise Center: Women and men can benefit from a woman doing this exercise.
82. How to Have Your First Orgasm: Many women have trouble reaching orgasm. If you want tips on climaxing during sex, read this article.
83. The Art of Masturbation: Learn how masturbation is actually "the secret to busting through mental blocks and finding new ways to rack up big orgasms during sex a deux."
84. In Pictures: 13 Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life: From pills to the gym, Forbes’ guide has 13 different tips for being better in bed.
85. My Vagina Up Close: This article aims to uncover "the vagina superior myth" and different types of female orgasm.
86. Letting Go of Expectations: This article wonders whether or not losing weight equals a better sex life. Readers will also find tips on being comfortable with their own sexuality and having a healthy self image.
87. Exercise Can Spice Up Your Sex Life, The American Council on Exercise Says: Get a summary of this study, which holds that regular exercise improves sex.
88. 3 Secrets for a Steamier Sex Life: A heart-healthy diet, can-do attitude and regular exercise can really make your sex life better, according to this article.
89. Exploring Your Sexuality: Learn to ignore labels, be honest with yourself and explore your sexuality and sexual preferences.
90. How to Feel Sexy Everyday: Simple things like improving your posture and stretching can make you feel sexier.

Quizzes

These quizzes can help you understand what you’re craving in bed and what kind of lover you really are.

91. Are You a Lazy Lover?: Find out if you’re really giving your all in bed by taking this quiz.
92. Discovery Health Sex Quiz: Take this quiz to see how much you know about libido and intimacy.
93. Glamour Sex Quiz: Answer questions like "at what age are women supposed to be at their sexual peak" in this quiz.
94. iVillage Love and Sex quizzes: Take fun quizzes like "Are you too jealous?" and "Are you a sex goddess?" here.
95. What’s Your Tantric Sex IQ?: Find out how much you really know about this type of sex when you take this quiz.
96. Sex Positions Quiz: Here, you’ll learn all about sex positions and performance.
97. Sex Quiz: This psychology website offers a quiz to help individuals learn more about their sexuality and attitude towards sex.
98. Love Quizzes: From romantic compatibility quizzes to tests that find out what kind of lover you are, you’ll find it all here.
99. Sex Lingo quiz: Take this quiz to "see how fluent you are in the lingo of love." Other quizzes on the site include tests about birth control, gender, STDs and more.
100. Tickle Relationship Quizzes: This collection of sex and relationship quizzes can help you discover your sexual identity.