The Love Coach

You’re both in seventh heaven, an ocean of bliss, surrounded and sunk in nothing but your love for each other as you wait for wedding bells to toll with bated breath. You can’t wait to begin your new life together as husband and wife and can only foresee happiness in the future. I don’t mean to be a spoilsport and rain on your parade, but, if you’re looking at a lifetime together, it’s time to take off those blinders and look at the world and its realities without those rose-tinted glasses that you have on. Marriage is one of the biggest decisions in each of our lives, and by making a permanent commitment to your spouse, you agree to take on each other, faults and all.

But divorces are only too common in today’s scenario, simply because couples are not willing to work on their marriages. Yes, it may come as a rude shock to the romantics, but a relationship is a kind of job that you keep working at, giving it your best so that it runs smoothly like well-oiled machinery. Here are a few tips for engaged couples who’re destined to walk down the wedding road soon:

•    Marriage is all about compromise – there’s no use spending your time bickering over trivialities like how your home should be decorated or what to eat for dinner. Sometimes it’s best to take the stance “Let’s agree to disagree on this one” and settle for common tastes. When you give in to the wishes of your spouse every now and then, you’re doing it out of love so that the one you love is happy. This kind of devotion comes back multiplied many times over, and this give-and-take policy is a key stone in the foundation of a strong marriage.
•    Married couples get used to each other’s company and slowly forget the thrill and excitement of dating. Work to keep the romance alive in your marriage by getting dressed and going out once a week, like you used to do when you were seeing each other. Even when the kids arrive, hire a babysitter and keep your date with each other.
•    There are going to be issues with the in-laws, on both sides. If you don’t get along with them, be polite and keep your opinions to yourself. They are your spouse’s family after all, and insulting them or being rude to them is not going to win you any brownie points.
•    Money becomes a key issue once you get married and your finances are now pooled together. Make it a point to put aside half your income every month into a savings account that will keep for your retirement or tide you over during emergencies.
•    There will be fights, and when they happen, make sure that you make up soon enough. Think before you say anything hurtful, because your anger may dissipate, but you can never take back your words. Saying you’re sorry does not mean you are the lesser person; in fact, it means you have the bigger heart.
•    Every marriage is different, so take time to analyze yours and work on it accordingly. Remember, where there’s love, there’s always a solution to any problem! 

 

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